Is your anxiety holding you back?

I suffer from anxiety. It peaks when I feel out of control. This means that I try to be in control as much as I can. This has been helpful in my personal and professional career but at times, like now, in the middle of a pandemic, it is problematic. I can’t control if, and when, I might fall unwell, the impact on my loved ones and the severity of the impact on my business. This could freak me out! In the last week I have had clients, friends, family and colleagues tell me about their mounting levels of anxiety. I relate to sleepless nights, an inability to focus on any one task, forgetfulness, overwhelm, panic and feeling frightened.

How can you make sense of what is going on in your mind?

How would it feel if you knew you could have more control? When we are under huge stress we go into survival mode. Our brains are no longer working competently and this means it can’t access the prefrontal cortex. This is the part of our brain that allows us to plan, or to reflect on our experiences, knowledge and expertise. Under stress we can’t access this part and therefore can’t do these things.

Another part of our brain, the amygdala, assesses the level of threat we feel. Back in caveman days this might be the fear of being attacked but today it will be the threat of catching Covid-19 or being unable to avoid critical business decisions. 

How does the control freak in me cope with such uncertainty?

We can’t control every aspect of life. That is unrealistic. But there are ways of feeling more in control but it starts with a shift in how we see things. If we believe that we have no power to change or influence we are going to feel more stuck. If we raise our awareness of our unhelpful thinking this enables us to stand back from the thoughts and separate ourselves from them – this gives us a feeling of empowerment. Lean away rather than into the inner dialogue. Don’t be drawn into the spiral. 

Here are some tips to help you:

  1. Notice when your inner voice gets louder or more persistent. This can help help you manage anxiety before it spirals
  2. It might feel uncomfortable at first but challenging your inner voice is really helpful. Find your more helpful inner voice and tell your unhelpful voice to do one!
  3. It can be challenging at first but with focus we can find a more positive way of viewing the situation. What opportunities does it create?
  4. Remember that physical wellbeing is just as important as mental wellbeing in managing anxiety. It produces endorphins which will make you feel better. Get out in the garden or put some of your favourite tunes on and have a dance around the kitchen!
  5. Use the energy you have and put it to good use. It will create more energy, motivation and less worry.

Remember how powerful talking and being heard can be? This is why coaching is so effective. When we say it our worries out loud we no longer have to hold them all alone. This is an anxious and uncertain time for us all. With this in mind, I have opened up a 5 free 30-minute sessions so you can voice your concerns outloud and in a safe space. If you would like to chat, please book your free conversation here https://bit.ly/2WDAhCC

SHARE THIS POST

Is your anxiety holding you back?

I suffer from anxiety. It peaks when I feel out of control. This means that I try to be in control as much as I can. This has been helpful in my personal and professional career but at times, like now, in the middle of a pandemic, it is problematic. I can’t control if, and when, I might fall unwell, the impact on my loved ones and the severity of the impact on my business. This could freak me out! In the last week I have had clients, friends, family and colleagues tell me about their mounting levels of anxiety. I relate to sleepless nights, an inability to focus on any one task, forgetfulness, overwhelm, panic and feeling frightened.

How can you make sense of what is going on in your mind?

How would it feel if you knew you could have more control? When we are under huge stress we go into survival mode. Our brains are no longer working competently and this means it can’t access the prefrontal cortex. This is the part of our brain that allows us to plan, or to reflect on our experiences, knowledge and expertise. Under stress we can’t access this part and therefore can’t do these things.

Another part of our brain, the amygdala, assesses the level of threat we feel. Back in caveman days this might be the fear of being attacked but today it will be the threat of catching Covid-19 or being unable to avoid critical business decisions. 

How does the control freak in me cope with such uncertainty?

We can’t control every aspect of life. That is unrealistic. But there are ways of feeling more in control but it starts with a shift in how we see things. If we believe that we have no power to change or influence we are going to feel more stuck. If we raise our awareness of our unhelpful thinking this enables us to stand back from the thoughts and separate ourselves from them – this gives us a feeling of empowerment. Lean away rather than into the inner dialogue. Don’t be drawn into the spiral. 

Here are some tips to help you:

  1. Notice when your inner voice gets louder or more persistent. This can help help you manage anxiety before it spirals
  2. It might feel uncomfortable at first but challenging your inner voice is really helpful. Find your more helpful inner voice and tell your unhelpful voice to do one!
  3. It can be challenging at first but with focus we can find a more positive way of viewing the situation. What opportunities does it create?
  4. Remember that physical wellbeing is just as important as mental wellbeing in managing anxiety. It produces endorphins which will make you feel better. Get out in the garden or put some of your favourite tunes on and have a dance around the kitchen!
  5. Use the energy you have and put it to good use. It will create more energy, motivation and less worry.

Remember how powerful talking and being heard can be? This is why coaching is so effective. When we say it our worries out loud we no longer have to hold them all alone. This is an anxious and uncertain time for us all. With this in mind, I have opened up a 5 free 30-minute sessions so you can voice your concerns outloud and in a safe space. If you would like to chat, please book your free conversation here https://bit.ly/2WDAhCC

SHARE THIS POST

TAKE THE FIRST STEP TO CREATING THE CHANGE THAT YOU NEED…

If you are interested and would like to find out more, contact Lucy today. Call 07810 205781 / email Lucy@lucytullochcoaching.co.uk or fill in the form below.

"Lucy was able to unpick my scrambled thoughts and aspirations with the deftness of a surgeon, but the approach of a close, trusted friend."

Ben Colbridge - International Sales & Customer Success Director

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2020-11-23T09:45:40+00:00

Ben Colbridge - International Sales & Customer Success Director

"Lucy was able to unpick my scrambled thoughts and aspirations with the deftness of a surgeon, but the approach of a close, trusted friend."

"I can’t recommend Lucy enough. When we began working together I was feeling demoralised and unsure how to move forward. I now have a better sense of where I’m headed professionally. Thank you Lucy!"

Laura Robinson - Account Manager - Booking.com

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2021-07-09T13:24:24+00:00

Laura Robinson - Account Manager - Booking.com

"I can’t recommend Lucy enough. When we began working together I was feeling demoralised and unsure how to move forward. I now have a better sense of where I’m headed professionally. Thank you Lucy!"

"Lucy has been such an asset in helping me understand what I want from my career. I believe the coaching programme has been an excellent long-term investment in myself. Lucy is a complete pro who I would highly recommend to those considering investing in themselves and their career."

Michelle Mooney - Senior Research & Insights Analyst at We Are Social

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2021-07-09T13:21:55+00:00

Michelle Mooney - Senior Research & Insights Analyst at We Are Social

"Lucy has been such an asset in helping me understand what I want from my career. I believe the coaching programme has been an excellent long-term investment in myself. Lucy is a complete pro who I would highly recommend to those considering investing in themselves and their career."

"I would thoroughly recommend Lucy, she's been a key part of our achievements recently."

Andrew Hunt - Owner, Holiday Architects

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2020-11-23T09:58:08+00:00

Andrew Hunt - Owner, Holiday Architects

"I would thoroughly recommend Lucy, she's been a key part of our achievements recently."

"This week I did something that only I short while ago would have filled me with horror. This is entirely down to the way that Lucy has managed to unpick my insecurities and reinforce in me the positives and use them to inspire better outcomes for the future."

Charlie Bateson - Strategy Specialist for the travel industry

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2021-07-09T13:23:09+00:00

Charlie Bateson - Strategy Specialist for the travel industry

"This week I did something that only I short while ago would have filled me with horror. This is entirely down to the way that Lucy has managed to unpick my insecurities and reinforce in me the positives and use them to inspire better outcomes for the future."

"Brilliant 60mins spent learning, listening & adopting strategies to cope in these unprecedented times. Look forward to having you at AITO again."

Yvonne Kinder - Event Manager - AITO

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2021-07-09T13:32:59+00:00

Yvonne Kinder - Event Manager - AITO

Testimonial from AITO

"Lucy's coaching style is both encouraging and supportive. She helps to unlock true potential. I would absolutely recommend Lucy as a professional coach."

Alexa Hester - Marketing Manager - CPM UK Ltd

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2021-07-09T13:30:18+00:00

Alexa Hester - Marketing Manager - CPM UK Ltd

"Lucy's coaching style is both encouraging and supportive. She helps to unlock true potential. I would absolutely recommend Lucy as a professional coach."

"Lucy helped woman find their confidence and values in order to successfully return to work, change careers or start a business."

Joy Foster - Techpixies Founder

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2019-06-24T13:10:17+00:00

Joy Foster - Techpixies Founder

"Lucy helped woman find their confidence and values in order to successfully return to work, change careers or start a business."

"Lucy was excellent at facilitating the face to face group life coaching sessions and highly skilled at encouraging the women."

Beth Kirk - Social Media Marketing Trainer

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2020-11-23T09:56:14+00:00

Beth Kirk - Social Media Marketing Trainer

"Lucy was excellent at facilitating the face to face group life coaching sessions and highly skilled at encouraging the women."

"It is clear to me that our half years’ worth of work provided a quantum shift in the way I think."

Kim Benton-Rogers - Deputy Head Teacher and Educational Consultant

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2019-06-24T13:20:17+00:00

Kim Benton-Rogers - Deputy Head Teacher and Educational Consultant

"It is clear to me that our half years’ worth of work provided a quantum shift in the way I think."

"Lucy’s skills and knowledge, empathy and professionalism have completely won me over."

Eley McAinsh - Writer, Editor, Producer.

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2019-06-24T13:15:32+00:00

Eley McAinsh - Writer, Editor, Producer.

"Lucy’s skills and knowledge, empathy and professionalism have completely won me over."

"This has been a brand-new experience for me and I found it very insightful and useful."

Sales Consultant, Holiday Architects, Cheltenham

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2019-06-24T13:12:34+00:00

Sales Consultant, Holiday Architects, Cheltenham

"This has been a brand-new experience for me and I found it very insightful and useful."

"Insightful, logical and completely non-judgmental."

Emma - Marketing Manager

Lucy Tulloch Coaching
2019-06-24T13:07:49+00:00

Emma - Marketing Manager

"Insightful, logical and completely non-judgmental."
0
0
Lucy Tulloch Coaching

 

A SELECTION OF LUCY’S CLIENTS

A SELECTION OF LUCY’S CLIENTS