For years I started most emails with, “just”. “I just wanted to check you were still OK to deliver that document on Thursday”. “I just wanted to check you were OK to babysit next week” or whatever the situation was. Why? I had never given it much thought but one day I realised it sounded like I was seeking permission from the person I was communicating with. Why did I need to feel as though I were seeking permission? I think it was a combination of fear and a lack of confidence. I think I told myself I was being polite but if I was really honest with myself I often felt embarrassed and awkward. From that day I made a conscious effort to not do it. I even have a subtle shift in my body language when I think about it. I sit up more, I am more confident in my delivery. I hadn’t thought to share this thought until I read this article. It beautifully describes how I felt and explains a bit more about why we might behave in this way and how it can hold us back.
If you have any questions just send me an email.
For years I started most emails with, “just”. “I just wanted to check you were still OK to deliver that document on Thursday”. “I just wanted to check you were OK to babysit next week” or whatever the situation was. Why? I had never given it much thought but one day I realised it sounded like I was seeking permission from the person I was communicating with. Why did I need to feel as though I were seeking permission? I think it was a combination of fear and a lack of confidence. I think I told myself I was being polite but if I was really honest with myself I often felt embarrassed and awkward. From that day I made a conscious effort to not do it. I even have a subtle shift in my body language when I think about it. I sit up more, I am more confident in my delivery. I hadn’t thought to share this thought until I read this article. It beautifully describes how I felt and explains a bit more about why we might behave in this way and how it can hold us back.
If you have any questions just send me an email.